LA 025: The Three Step Secret to Your Success

Let me start by telling you that I have found the secret to success is not a 20 step process. It’s not even a ten-step journey. No, not even seven steps to success. It’s three steps. Seriously. After all this time and experience I’ve stumbled upon the secret to success, and it is a three […]

“How to Find your Talent, Practice it and Achieve Greatness”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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How to find your talent, practice it and achieve greatnessIt was 4.30 on a cold and wet morning and I was choking on the stench of thick layers of years old grease behind the deep fat fryer and I was ecstatically happy as I scrubbed and cleaned the once white tiles back to their original gleaming brightness.

It was my first day on my first proper job and I would soon be delegating this filthy work to some other poor sap who similarly wanted to become a chef de cuisine. In the meantime, my job was to scrub, peel, haul, carry, chop, clear and clean it all up again.

The head cook (for in the mid 1970's we had few “Chef's” as that was far too French and suggestive of “haute cuisine”) had agreed to take me under her wing and teach me how to prepare the only famous dish to come from England and clogged the arteries of its working classes: The Great British Breakfast.

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How to align yourself for getting things done (and enjoy more success)

I’ve always been fascinated why some people seem to achieve incredible goals seemingly effortlessly, while others give up along the way, and others may as well have not set any goals because they have achieved very little. Have you set yourself a SMART goal and still not achieved it? Goal setting, we know is a […]

“How Great Leaders Build Trust and Increase Engagement”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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How Great Leaders Build Trust and Increase Engagement


A few weeks ago I recorded a podcast about the Power of Trust to Succeed and many people wrote and asked why it is that you can do something with the very best intentions but find that it backfires.
It seems that it is very easy to lose someone's trust but oh so difficult to gain it back.

Think of trust as a wallet full of cash.

I know that it's rare to have such a thing, but imagine, OK?

Say I have a couple of thousand bucks in various bills in my trust wallet. Every time I do or say something that causes you to lose faith in me, to lose your trust, for whatever reason, is like asking you to take whatever amount of cash out of my wallet.

Of course, being a normal human being, you'll take the 100 dollar bills first.

If, foolishly I hurt you in some way again, you'll take another chunk from my wallet. A third time and you'll probably take the wallet and empty it.

Now I have no trust with you. Is there any way I can influence you if you don’t trust me? Of course not.


“How to have the Power of Trust to Succeed”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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trust is essential to your success

Trust is the most fundamental building block of any relationship whether in business, politics, marriage, family or friendships. In the real world, trust signifies different things to different people but it frequently boils down to one point: trust is essential to your success.

Once lost, rebuilding trust is one of the most difficult things to accomplish for the reason that the thought of the betrayal can forever haunt the aggrieved. Rebuilding trust is definitely tough, but it’s not something that can be ignored. (more…)

“4 Simple Brain Hacks to Overcome Performance Anxiety”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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This week I’m sharing four simple brain hacks, and I really do mean simple, to overcome performance anxiety.

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Visit my Your Brain on Stress and Anxiety video on YouTube

I’ve been prompted in part, because of the responses I have been receiving about a little video I made just over a year ago now. It’s entitled Your Brain on Stress and Anxiety, and it’s garnered just shy of a hundred thousand views on YouTube alone now. Which is incredibly humbling, but also a little concerning. Humbling because it makes me somewhat proud that a little whiteboard video I drew and produced has been watched quite so many times just on YouTube. But it has also been a little disturbing.

If you read some of the publically visible comments, you’ll get an idea of the types of questions I’ve been getting over the past year from those who are suffering from stress and anxiety. Some very serious stress and anxiety as well.

So, a quick caveat if I may. I am not a medical doctor and, if you are suffering from long-term stress or anxiety, please do seek professional help.

The four simple ways I am sharing today will help anyone with any degree of stress and anxiety, but I am focused more on people in business or work who suffer stress and anxiety because they are about to perform in front of others.

That does not mean that these simple ways won’t help whenever you feel anxious, they will. So use them.

And if you have yet to watch my little video, you should do so now or later, and whilst you’re over at YouTube, subscribe to my channel as well and do please share with at least 3 people you know will benefit from learning there. (more…)

“Unfailure! How to be sure of your future success.”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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Our real problem isn’t the failure, it’s in assigning blame.

We're all aware that there are no shortcuts to success. But, have you noticed that success seems to come more easily to some people and not so easily to you?

It's OK, you're not alone. In fact, everyone sees it this way. Even that eejit in your class at school. You know, the one in the big house, with the wealthy parents. They got given a swanky BMW for their 18th birthday. Yes, even they look at others and believe that success came more easily to them. And you know what. They probably even look at you and say how ‘lucky' you are to have so easily been successful.

“Me?” you say.

Yes, you. Because you are successful in so many ways. Perhaps not yet in the specific way you think you would like, but you have a remarkable number of successes under your belt already.

And you know how you achieved those successes?

You failed. Yeap. You heard me right. You failed. Sometimes, you failed miserably, other times you just failed. But you failed nonetheless. And from that failure, you learned to succeed.

This week I'm going to share with you some insights on failure and why it carries such a stigma. Then we'll look at the positive role of failure and lastly, learn how to embrace failure… or something I'm going to call: Unfailure.”

“3 Questions to gain altitude today. Aptitude + Attitude = Altitude.”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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Technical Aptitude alone is insufficient

Jimmy Connors, winner of 109 professional singles tennis titles says, “There’s a thin line between being #1 or #100, and mostly it’s mental.”

In his well-researched book, Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman shows that it’s our attitude more than our aptitude that determines our altitude. While our society lauds intellectual giants and power, Goleman’s research concludes, “At best, IQ contributes about 20 percent to the factors that determine life success, which leaves 80 percent to other forces.”

Other EQ researchers, Robert Cooper and Ayman Sawaf consider this too conservative. In their book, Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership and Organizations, they write, “— IQ may be related to as little as 4 percent of real-world success — over 90 percent may be related to other forms of intelligence — it is emotional intelligence, not IQ or raw brain power alone, that underpins many of the best decisions, the most dynamic and profitable organizations, and the most satisfying and successful lives.

Malcolm Higgs and Vic Dulewicz set out to disprove this “faddish idea” relenting after their research that, Emotional Intelligence is of far greater importance than IQ and something they term “management quotient”.

There’s a growing consensus in the academic and popular literature that our attitude and our mindset are more important than our technical capability that make a difference to our success. As Zig Ziglar puts it, “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”

Difference makers have a better attitude


“7 Steps to your new goal”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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A goal worth achieving makes you place yourself in the crosshairs

When you aim for the right target, your goal becomes more possible

You already know that you need to have a clear goal in your personal development as a leader. Without a goal, you don't know where you are going. And that's exactly where you will end up… drifting somewhere… maybe it'll be great, maybe it'll be a waste of your time. Here are the seven steps to your new leadership development goal:

  1. Who is in your Inner Circle?
    • The people closest to you can raise you up or tear you down. Take a long hard look at those who are in your inner circle and fill it, if necessary with people who build you up.
  2. Develop SMART goals in each area of your life.
    • Know specifically what your goal is, know how you will measure it, make sure that you can attain it (with the help of your inner circle). Make sure your goal is realistic (if someone else has done it, it is!) And put your stake in the ground for time. When will you achieve this goal? Can it change, sure it can… you can move the goal posts any time you like.
  3. Breakdown your bigger, longer term goals into smaller, shorter term chunks.
    • Any goal worth having is going to take time to reach. Breaking it down into smaller steps makes it much more manageable. I recommend that you “think week' – after all you can pretty well predict a week ahead. But a month… that's tough, all sorts of things could happen in a month. For example, establish steps that you will have completed by Friday each week (time to celebrate at the weekend!)
  4. Work with an accountability partner. Check with your inner circle regularly to review your progress.
    • Wouldn't it be nice if you could trust yourself to have the self-discipline to do this alone? Sure… but believe me, you wouldn't be reading this if you were that self-disciplined. Work with someone in your inner circle who will support you, cajole you, nag you… whatever it takes. You already know what works for you, so invite them to do so and return the favour.
  5. Celebrate your conquering of each milestone.
    • Don't wait till the end result. Constantly promising yourself that one day you will celebrate. No, choose to celebrate every milestone. My wife and I have a stupid little dance we do… in private I might add because it really isn't something you would like to see… but we have fun and it's our shared symbol of an achievement worth celebrating.
  6. When you reach the goal, choose to stretch yourself to new heights.
    • So you've developed yourself well and achieved the goal you set. Well that just proves that you are a lot more capable than even you thought. Now let's raise your game and set new standards to achieve.
  7. Remember – leadership develops daily, not in a day. Keep on keeping on.
    • It won't happen tomorrow. You don't absorb new competencies or character traits by simply exposing yourself to them. No, you need to put your development into practice each and every day. Repeat what works, learn from what doesn't. Adapt, change and keep on keeping on. Eventually, it'll come ‘naturally' and you may even forget that previously you weren't this good.

No-one, who ever achieved anything great truly, did it alone. Build you inner circle, set clear SMART goals and plan each of the smaller steps necessary to achieve them – this is all part of successful personal development. I look forward to hearing about your celebrations.

Which of the 7 steps do you do best and which worst?