6 – Development and growth

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“One’s philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes.… In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility.”  Eleanor Roosevelt
Everyone wants to improve, but not all want to change. The problem is that if we want to improve, we need to develop and grow, and that requires us to change. Whatever type of improvement or change you want to make, unless you go about growing intentionally, the effect will only be skin-deep and probably won't be sustained.
It's easy for us to get into one of life's ruts. We find ourselves in a comfort zone in some part of our life and continue in the groove even when it's heading in the wrong direction. If we learn something, it's by accident. We just get by and most of the time we remain in survival mode.
In the Survival Cycle with a largely Fixed Mindset, growth happens accidentally. In the Creative Cycle with a largely Growth Mindset, we can choose to be intentional about our growth and development.
You have a choice:
  • Accidental growth and development
    • Talk big
    • Plan to start tomorrow
    • Wait for growth to come
    • Play it safe
    • Depend on good luck
    • Quit early and often
    • Fall into bad habits
    • Think like a victim
    • Learn only from mistakes
  • Intentional growth and development
    • Think like a learner
    • Start today
    • Choose to grow
    • Rely on hard work
    • Keep on keeping on through the tough days too
    • Work on good habits
    • Think like a victor
    • Take risks
    • Never stop growing
Growth doesn’t just happen—not for me, not for you, not for anybody. You have to go after it and you have to work at it!
With the decision and follow through of intentional growth there are two areas which can derail your new intention:
  • Maintaining your motivation and
  • Prioritising growth
I have lost count of the number of clients who have told me at the beginning of a session that they had been too busy to do the homework. And all of them have excellent reasons for their time being filled. I shared about these valid reasons in “Overcoming obstacles”.
If you do not make the time, no one will make it for you. It's either your drive and motivation for growing and developing (compared to those other things you complain about having to do) or it's the way you prioritise your time.