“Unfailure! How to be sure of your future success.”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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Our real problem isn’t the failure, it’s in assigning blame.

We’re all aware that there are no shortcuts to success. But, have you noticed that success seems to come more easily to some people and not so easily to you?

It’s OK, you’re not alone. In fact, everyone sees it this way. Even that eejit in your class at school. You know, the one in the big house, with the wealthy parents. They got given a swanky BMW for their 18th birthday. Yes, even they look at others and believe that success came more easily to them. And you know what. They probably even look at you and say how ‘lucky’ you are to have so easily been successful.

“Me?” you say.

Yes, you. Because you are successful in so many ways. Perhaps not yet in the specific way you think you would like, but you have a remarkable number of successes under your belt already.

And you know how you achieved those successes?

You failed. Yeap. You heard me right. You failed. Sometimes, you failed miserably, other times you just failed. But you failed nonetheless. And from that failure, you learned to succeed.

This week I’m going to share with you some insights on failure and why it carries such a stigma. Then we’ll look at the positive role of failure and lastly, learn how to embrace failure… or something I’m going to call: Unfailure.”

“3 Questions to gain altitude today. Aptitude + Attitude = Altitude.”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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Technical Aptitude alone is insufficient

Jimmy Connors, winner of 109 professional singles tennis titles says, “There’s a thin line between being #1 or #100, and mostly it’s mental.”

In his well-researched book, Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman shows that it’s our attitude more than our aptitude that determines our altitude. While our society lauds intellectual giants and power, Goleman’s research concludes, “At best, IQ contributes about 20 percent to the factors that determine life success, which leaves 80 percent to other forces.”

Other EQ researchers, Robert Cooper and Ayman Sawaf consider this too conservative. In their book, Executive EQ: Emotional Intelligence in Leadership and Organizations, they write, “— IQ may be related to as little as 4 percent of real-world success — over 90 percent may be related to other forms of intelligence — it is emotional intelligence, not IQ or raw brain power alone, that underpins many of the best decisions, the most dynamic and profitable organizations, and the most satisfying and successful lives.

Malcolm Higgs and Vic Dulewicz set out to disprove this “faddish idea” relenting after their research that, Emotional Intelligence is of far greater importance than IQ and something they term “management quotient”.

There’s a growing consensus in the academic and popular literature that our attitude and our mindset are more important than our technical capability that make a difference to our success. As Zig Ziglar puts it, “Your attitude, not your aptitude, will determine your altitude.”

Difference makers have a better attitude

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“7 Steps to your new goal”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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AdvantEdge Podcast
11/06/2015
A goal worth achieving makes you place yourself in the crosshairs

When you aim for the right target, your goal becomes more possible

You already know that you need to have a clear goal in your personal development as a leader. Without a goal, you don’t know where you are going. And that’s exactly where you will end up… drifting somewhere… maybe it’ll be great, maybe it’ll be a waste of your time. Here are the seven steps to your new leadership development goal:

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  1. Who is in your Inner Circle?
    • The people closest to you can raise you up or tear you down. Take a long hard look at those who are in your inner circle and fill it, if necessary with people who build you up.
  2. Develop SMART goals in each area of your life.
    • Know specifically what your goal is, know how you will measure it, make sure that you can attain it (with the help of your inner circle). Make sure your goal is realistic (if someone else has done it, it is!) And put your stake in the ground for time. When will you achieve this goal? Can it change, sure it can… you can move the goal posts any time you like.
  3. Breakdown your bigger, longer term goals into smaller, shorter term chunks.
    • Any goal worth having is going to take time to reach. Breaking it down into smaller steps makes it much more manageable. I recommend that you “think week’ – after all you can pretty well predict a week ahead. But a month… that’s tough, all sorts of things could happen in a month. For example, establish steps that you will have completed by Friday each week (time to celebrate at the weekend!)
  4. Work with an accountability partner. Check with your inner circle regularly to review your progress.
    • Wouldn’t it be nice if you could trust yourself to have the self-discipline to do this alone? Sure… but believe me, you wouldn’t be reading this if you were that self-disciplined. Work with someone in your inner circle who will support you, cajole you, nag you… whatever it takes. You already know what works for you, so invite them to do so and return the favour.
  5. Celebrate your conquering of each milestone.
    • Don’t wait till the end result. Constantly promising yourself that one day you will celebrate. No, choose to celebrate every milestone. My wife and I have a stupid little dance we do… in private I might add because it really isn’t something you would like to see… but we have fun and it’s our shared symbol of an achievement worth celebrating.
  6. When you reach the goal, choose to stretch yourself to new heights.
    • So you’ve developed yourself well and achieved the goal you set. Well that just proves that you are a lot more capable than even you thought. Now let’s raise your game and set new standards to achieve.
  7. Remember – leadership develops daily, not in a day. Keep on keeping on.
    • It won’t happen tomorrow. You don’t absorb new competencies or character traits by simply exposing yourself to them. No, you need to put your development into practice each and every day. Repeat what works, learn from what doesn’t. Adapt, change and keep on keeping on. Eventually, it’ll come ‘naturally’ and you may even forget that previously you weren’t this good.

No-one, who ever achieved anything great truly, did it alone. Build you inner circle, set clear SMART goals and plan each of the smaller steps necessary to achieve them – this is all part of successful personal development. I look forward to hearing about your celebrations.

Which of the 7 steps do you do best and which worst?

“How to Learn Faster and Better”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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AdvantEdge Podcast
09-03-2015
All will be well in the morning

All will be well in the morning

My mum would often tell me “all will be well in the morning.” For her, it was just experience and age-old wisdom.

All will be well in the morning

And things always were better in the morning.

Somehow, all the clutter and stress and worry, while, not gone altogether, was, at least more manageable.

As I slept, my brain was free to sort through the problem, process it entirely and put it in a suitable place close to a similar experience in memory. I had learned how to resolve whatever the issue was.

More often than not, it didn’t even need addressing anyway.

How taking a break improves future learning

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“How to enable Talent to Thrive in the Workplace”
by Dr John Kenworthy

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How to learn faster and better

My mum would often tell me “all will be well in the morning.” For her, it was just experience and age-old wisdom. And things always were better in the morning.  Somehow, all the clutter and stress and worry, while, not gone altogether, was, at least more manageable. As I slept, my brain was free to […]

Most individuals, who seek coaching for themselves, are going through (or about to embark on) a transition in his or her life:

  1. Taking on a new role or responsibility, or starting in a new industry where you have little experience, but need to gain the skills and experience quickly when you are expected to hit the ground running.
  2. When needing a personal assessment to determine your strengths and weaknesses, and consider what you should be doing in order to maximise your potential.
  3. When striving for promotion or a new position.
  4. When needing to talk through your thought processes, strategies, and plans in order to move forward.
  5. When struggling with certain skills and performance areas, and you wish to improve.
  6. When feeling you have reached a plateau in your career and wanted to explore options.

Organisations sponsored coaching tend to use external coaches for their more senior leaders and internal coaches for more junior staff. Fortunately, many organisations realise the benefits of coaching to strengthen and enhance good performance; a few still think of coaching as the last resort to “fix issues.”

How leadership character shapes the market

So the economy is heading for the pits… again. The markets react to the slightest hint of bad news, good news, indifferent news, rumour and just occasionally, fact. I was having a conversation with a business leader yesterday over coffee and we got to wondering why so many people jump on the bandwagons of bear and bull […]

Persuasion – what is it and how do you do it?

What is persuasion? As a leader, your skills of persuasion are often the most critical determinants of your success. Or at least, that’s what many people believe. If it’s so important then, why do so few people actually develop this competency? It is a skill that (much like leadership itself) is something many think that […]

Persuasion